Body Image Booster: 5 Ways To Strengthen Your Self-Respect

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Mondays can be rough for many of us, and this doesn’t create the ideal environment for building a better body image. To help you turn that around, every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit to help boost your body image – and kick-start the week on a positive note.
Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
We know that body image isn’t just about thighs, hips and waists.
At its core, body image is about self-worth and self-respect.

A positive body image goes beyond a few body parts, way beyond fixing the “problem areas.”
It’s about acknowledging that you’re a great person, beautiful, both inside and out. You may not always feel beautiful, but you know you are.
While reading Good Girls Don’t Get Fat: How Weight Obsession Is Messing Up Our Girls And How We Can Help Them Thrive Despite* It by Robyn Silverman, I came across a great list of tips for cultivating self-respect.
(By the way, the book is fantastic, and I’ve talked about it several times before on Weightless, like herehere and here.)
For years, I was missing a big chunk of self-respect, and my wanting to be thin was my misguided way of thinking that I could get it. As though I had to yearn self-respect – and change myself to have it. (You don’t. You don’t have to yearn it.)
Maybe you were – or are – in a similar place.
But I’ve realized something about self-respect. It’s always there. You just have to access it.
Silverman lists tips for parents to help their daughters practice self-respect. I think they’re just as important for us adults when trying to improve our body image.
  1. Say your “I am’s.” Here, Silverman suggests focusing on positive attributes and saying them as you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. You might say “I am powerful” or “I am beautiful.”
  2. Create a family code. I’ve talked before about my self-deprecating speak in grad school. There were many times when I didn’t even notice how negatively I was talking about myself. Maybe you’re the same way. That’s why it can help for you and your family to create “a word or sound that is made when someone says something negative about themselves.” Try it to build awareness and to reduce your negative talk.
  3. Consider and say out loud one thing you like about yourself. It’s easy to forget our positive attributes, especially if we’re used to swimming in self-doubt, insecurity and a shaky sense of self and body image. We know that our appearance means little when it comes to a positive body image. Our attitude – how we view and feel about our bodies – is in the driver’s seat. Silverman gives the example of “I’m thankful for the curve of my hips.” Thanking your body also helps you view it in a more positive light and makes you realize all the amazing things you do have.
  4. Involve your loved ones in a game of “What I love about you.” I especially love this tip because you’re not only telling the women (and men) in your life how much they mean to you, but you’re also lifting their body image and mood as well. Silverman says, “Sometimes just knowing the special things others see in them is enough to counteract some of the negative things they see in themselves.”
  5. Say three positive statements for every  negative one. It’s one thing to track and reduce your negative thoughts, but counteracting them is a really powerful way to remind yourself of your own beauty – and of the great qualities you do have.
Silverman writes that she hopes these exercises will help girls become “their own cheerleaders, their own best friends, and they can go out into the world fully armed.”
I wish all the same things for you.
Which are your favorite tips from this list? What are your “I am’s” and three positive statements? Please share in the comments!
P.S., I volunteer for a local Florida organization called COPE (Community Outreach for the Prevention of Eating Disorders). We give presentations at middle schools about being a healthy girl in today’s world (i.e., no dieting, loving your body and being a smart consumer of the media).
Next Monday, April 4th, COPE will be showing the documentary “America the Beautiful” at Daytona State College, and several eating disorder specialists from the organization will be leading a discussion afterwards. It’ll take place at the Madorsky Theater from 5 p.m. to 8:00pm.
Unfortunately, I can’t be there, because I’m participating in a webinar on social media and relationships (learn more). But if you’re in the area, I hope you check it out!

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Quotations taken from Paulo Coelho

Enjoy these Quotations taken from Paulo Coelho's wonderful book: The Alchemist

It's the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.
Never stop dreaming.
Not everyone can see his dreams come true in the same way.
Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
The world's greatest lie: At a certain point in out lives we lose control of what's happening to us and our lives become controlled by fate.
When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
Intuition is really a sudden immersion of the soul into the universal current of life, where the histories of all people are connected, and we are able to know everything because it's all written there.
If you can concentrate on the present, you'll be a happy man…the secret is here in the present. If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And if you improve on the present, what comes later will also be better…Each day, in itself, brings with it an eternity.
Everything has been written by the same hand.
All things are one.
Courage is the quality most essential to understanding the language of the world.
Everyone on earth has a treasure that awaits him.
Wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.
You've got to find the treasure, so that everything you have learned along the way can make sense.
There is only one way to learn. It's through action.
Listen to your heart. It knows all things, because it came from the Soul of the World and it will one day return there.
This natural world is only an image and a copy of paradise.
The existence of this world is simply a guarantee that there exists a world that is perfect.
No heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity.
Most people see the world as a threatening place, and because they do, the world turns out indeed to be a threatening place.
When you possess great treasures within you, and try to tell others of them, seldom are you believed.
No one fails to suffer the consequences of everything under the sun.
There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are.
When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
Without love, dreams would have no meaning.
Love is the pure language of the world...A language without words…the one true language of the universe. It requires no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time.
Love is the force that transforms and improves the soul of the world.
The boy reached through to the Soul of the World and saw that it was a part of the Soul of God. And he saw that the Soul of God was his own soul. And that he, a boy, could perform miracles.
No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn't know it.
A philosophy of life: I'm an adventurer, looking for treasure.

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The unhealthy affects of stress can be evidenced in
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Stair Step Relaxation Technique

Begin with a series of deep, cleansing breaths. Feel
your body relax, as you slowly breath in and out. It
can be helpful to imagine the tension and stress
leaving your body as you exhale, while peace and calm
fill you, as you inhale clean, fresh air.

Once you have done this for a period of two to three
minutes, begin to experience the tension leaving your
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Once you are ready, picture yourself at the top of a
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reach this step. Say the number "One" as you descend.

With each succeeding step you can experience a deeper
and deeper state of calm and relaxation. As you
descend upon each step say the corresponding number of
the step you are on.

When you reach 10, which is at the bottom of this set
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Choosing a path in life, using the laws of attraction

Choosing a path in life, using the laws of attraction

When you are choosing a path in life you need to use the law of attraction to make it help. You need to think about the thing that are important to you and what makes you happy.  It is all about you and how you want to live.  Think about the things that you want to do and never let anything get in your way.  You need to use the law of attraction to make it all work out in the end.

We have to know that we create our own reality.  We are the ones that make everything happen.  This will include our money, relationship, and were we work.  It is all up to us and we are the ones that are in control of it all.  It is important to keep an open mind and to never let anything get in the way.  We have to focus on the important things in life goals and dreams are the one thing that keep us moving in the right direction and help us finds the goals that we have thought about for so long.

Many times people put too much pressure on themselves to make money. They may think the more money that they make the better off they will be. However this is not always going to be the case.  Yes it is nice to have money and nice things.  However the main goal in life needs to be happiness and what we need to do in order to achieve it.  It may be something that is so simple and for others the law of attraction needs to step in place and make everything clear to us.

Dreaming of what we want in life is one thing that we have to think about.  You need to work hard at what you want to do and choose the path that makes you feel good. It may take some thinking and time to figure out what you want to do but once you get the right idea in your head you will feel good and have the ability to be more successful no matter what you do.  This is called the law of attraction because you are using your way of thinking to make it work.

  It is all about the way that we do things and the goals that we set forth so that we are not left behind.  When you are dreaming big and living your life to make you happy you need to be serious about your ambition.  Keep on perusing your dreams and they will come true.  As long as you have the will to go for it you will see it work out for you. 

Never take life for granted.
  Things are not going to just fall in your lap.  You need to work for it all and this is the only way that you will be successful so that you are not letting life pass you by.  Work hard and take charge of the things that are meant to be for you.  This is going to make you feel good and give you the confidence that you need to realize you are the most important person in the world.  You are the only one that can control your life. 

Your way of thinking is going to help you be more positive.  You never have to live your life to make others happy.  It is all about the way that you choose to be.  Figure out what you are good at and once you do the confidence level that you have will go up.  It is going to be something that gives you power to choose the path in life that is going to work out best for you. The only way to know is to try it.  If it is not meant to be you will figure it out and move on to the next possibility in life. Persist Without Exception

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Improve Your Memory Naturally with Subliminal Messages

Improve Your Memory Naturally with Subliminal Messages

For those of us with good memories it can be difficult to comprehend why others can be so forgetful. However, like intelligence levels, memory levels can also differ vastly. Those with who find remembering information more difficult often have to spend much more time revising for exams or important dates. It is possible to improve your memory with subliminal audio messages in order to combat this.

Subliminal messages are a very very simple concept with astonishingly beneficial effects. They work by using optimistic statements which are tuned up to such a higher frequency that the human ear is unable to hear them. However, they can be heard and interpreted by the subconscious mind which allows the information to be processed without the listener being aware of this.

It may initially be difficult to believe that you can improve your memory with subliminal messages which may put some people off trying the theory out for themselves. It is important to remember that the use of subliminal messaging in advertising is banned in most countries as the effects are so powerful.

Where memory is concerned, subliminal messages can have a good effect. They will not automatically improve your memory, but will work alongside the methods you use to improve it in order to help you along the way. Subliminal messages are a learning aid and work to by natural means rewire your mind from the inside out - they will directly influence your memory, clear your mind, help you to focus, and take in information better.

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Stop Limiting Yourself

Stop Limiting Yourself - Achieve Your Maximum Potential With The Help Of Subliminal Messaging

It is stated we use less than 10% of the power of our brains in the course of everyday life. Even the most gifted amongst us seldom use more than this. Think about what our world would be like if we were able to boost our mental capacity by just a few %.It is often claimed that as a species we use a lot less than 10% of our mental ability, Perhaps we are only a fraction of the race we are going to develop into one day, and it is hard to imagine that if we only use 10% of our possible brain power now what we'd be like and capable of if we used just 20-30% even.

The brain is a vast network of neuro pathways in which 1000s of messages are delivered every second. Because of it's complex structure no two people are alike, and throughout our lives our brains grow and evolve, pick up patterns of thinking which become normal to us, and even help us to do a lot of tasks on auto-pilot.Our mind is a colossal physical structure of neuro-pathways that are used constantly to send 1000s of messages to all areas of our bodies. As we progress through life it stores many of the tasks we do every day so we can carry them out almost effortlessly. In the same way we also store our self beliefs and perceptions.

In many ways our brains are so resourceful, and as we grow and develop we all progress in different ways. We are all shaped differently and use our brains in different ways, some people for example have a positive experience in school and go on to study increasingly more. Others experience constructive feedback as a result of their athletic abilities and then continue on to excel - along the way developing the right mindset and patterns of thinking required for sports success.

Others may unfortunately receive negative feedback - being told they are no good at something, or that they will never be successful in a certain area. Just as our brains store positive feedback and reactions and shape our lives, they do the same with negative feedback too. Some neuro pathways close down and others open up, but essentially we limit our own potential. This is mainly a mechanism of our mind to protect us - we all experience being rejected, or criticism so our brains put measures in place to ensure we don't encounter it again.

These self beliefs and patterns of thinking just become part of our personality, of who we are, and in the end they holdd us back and actually stop us from reaching our full potential. However, you can break these habits and ways of thinking if you really want to.

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Imagine if you were free of damaging self perceptions, if you had full self esteem on a deep level, imagine how much more you could achieve.

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Is It Illegal To Use Subliminal MP3s?

There is a lot of controversy surrounding subliminal messages right now. In the last couple of years they have been big news..

Firstly fast food chain McDonalds were caught flashing a split second message of their logo on the Food Network TV channel. Then George Bush was received accusations of using political subliminal persuasion to swing floating voters during his re-election campaign.

Even though these instances were pretty high profile, they were still not investigated and no punishment was ever given.

George Bush simply ignored the allegations and eventually they went away, and the Food Network and McDonalds claimed it was just an error rather than a purposeful subliminal message. No further investigation ever pursued either Bush or McDonalds - sadly.

There should be stricter boundaries and systems put in place to monitor and control the use of subliminal messages and how they are used, but back to the original question:

No subliminal messages are not strictly illegal.

They are not allowed to be used within advertising in the way that you can't use purely subliminal sounds, or flashing subliminal images or text.

But things get a little more complicated when looking at a "subliminal suggestion".. A subliminal suggestion is basically a subliminal still image. When you first look it looks normal, (perhaps a little strange), but after inspecting it closer there is a subliminal suggestion hidden. Usually this is some kind of link to sex, or even just being "popular" or "cool". This is usually something as simple as having a beautiful girl using the product, or it can be more subtle such as incorporating the female form into your logo - Pepsi often use this female type imagery for example..

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Subliminal messages are completely legal to use for your own personal development, so instead of worrying that you are picking up manipulative subliminal messages while watching TV or in your everyday life you can instead make sure you receive positive subliminal messages. You can instead use the power of subliminal audio to influence your mind in a positive way and help you to reach your life goals and achieve success.

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